Positive Attitude – Do Others Influence Your Sense of Self Esteem?

Do you feel authentically good about who you are at your heart and soul level? Is your self-esteem strong and joyful? Does your sense of self worth emanate from deep within your core essence — or do you allow the opinion and subjective views of others to determine how you perceive yourself?

Everyone has a very unique way of perceiving themselves and most of us are influenced by the thoughts, deeds and opinions of all those who surround us — family, friends, coworkers, etc. Those that surround you should absolutely be supportive, caring, kind and encouraging — nothing less than that is acceptable. However, in reality, that is rarely the case.

But being confident about who you are and your life path are essential to feel fulfilled, successful, balanced and compassionate — a state of being that most of us aspire to. Honestly, how many times have you made a statement such as: “She made me feel inadequate” or “He made me feel unworthy and bad about myself.” We have all been there.

To move forward, you need to accept total responsibility for your life, your actions and your emotions. Nobody can or should MAKE you feel anything. Your response and reactions to others determines what you feel. Decide that you will respond to challenging people and their opinions with strength and a powerful sense of self that will let their negativity roll off.

Many people feel the need to control others (I was raised in such a family environment) and do not understand the importance of letting go, being supportive and permitting others to grow, flourish and follow their own radiant inner light and unique life path. All of us are entitled to expand and grow as individuals, and as soulful beings as well.

It is critically important to hold on to the knowing that your inner light, which is your own unique and complex personality, should always shine through in a genuine, caring way. Remain as peaceful and non-reactive to challenging personalities as possible. And really do put your best foot forward to work on this. However, if it gets to the point that a person tries to consistently suppress your light, sometimes it is necessary to step back or away for your own overall sense of well being. So always assess the situation with gentle and careful observation, striving to be as nonjudgmental as possible.

Those most enlightened people in your life will do their very best to enhance your light, your spirit and will vibrate in a very highly joyful and loving way. They will buoyantly support your self-confidence. You will always feel “good enough” in their presence without having to work at it or pretend you are someone you are not.

So find your inner confidence, connect with the inner YOU and let your brilliant light be a beacon for others as well, inspiring them to also feel confident and “good enough” as you interact with them on a daily basis. And remember to express sincere appreciation to those who are loving, compassionate and supportive to you…

Affirmations:

• I approach each day with confidence and the self assurance to make decisions and choices that are healthy, wise and joyful for me.
• I know in my heart that I am worthy of love, prosperity and success.
• I  strive to remain calm and non-reactive in situations that involve challenging personalities.